SHOCKER! The Marriage of these days leaves much to be Desired

Where marriage is truly functional, the partners always attract each other. But one wonders at the rate the number of married men take off to pleasure-points to ease themselves every evening after "the days work" - If you know what I mean- Are they telling the world that their wives do not need the evening fun? This is not unusual among Nigerian men, especially those who have what it takes to afford the fun. May be wives will need to tell the world what they feel about such men.

Anyway, the other day, Richard was tempted to just try it as other men do with ease before he meets his beloved wife Funke later at home. He was married to beautiful Funke three weeks ago. His reason for opting for a social nite was because Funke had told him earlier in the day that she was going to the church for a special evening program that will last into the night. Not used to church things, Richard decided not to crown his day with church activities so he simply choose a social site at the out sketch of the town for the day's fun.

As he sat there watching the activities of the social palace, he soon went out of his emotional balance courtesy some paid girls who played the nude on a stage targeted at the customers' emotions. Richard could not hold on until he meets Funke later at home, he needed to do the real thing at least. Soon everything was arranged for him - the room, the girl, the comfort are ready and Richard moved up stairs for a taste. As he opened the door, guess what happened, the girl turned out to be his Funke who was supposed to be in the Church not in a hotel room. Or was she running errands for the pastor?

Richard would have thought that it was a plot to trap him except that she was naked on the bed. Shocked at the sight and as if in a dream, he asked, "what could you be doing here?" and as if she knew he would asked that question she replied him, "and you?" What happened there and then cannot be all explained now but who among these two people is the real cheat. Is it Funke whose church service was to serve men in a hotel room or Richard whose response to an emotional temptation was to allow another lady to serve him in a hotel room? Who among them is doing this for the first time? What if they had not crossed each others way this particular evening?

I know you will not want this to happen to you, especially now that faithfulness in marriage is less spoken of. If your relationship is on a wrong premise, then expect things like these, but it can be avoided. In order to avoid this kind of unfortunate experience that can put your marriage under stress and the threat for divorce, the following tips can help you out:

1. You must Establish your faith in God
One of the reasons for failure in marriage is the failure to establish a solid relationship with God. The attempt to live in spite of God was what led to the experience of Funke and Richard. God is able to reveal His will to you in marriage and He is willing to do so, but the deceit of religiosity without godly substance has often cloud the importance of God out of the lives of many intending spouses.

God is above mistakes, mistakes do not happen with God. Your marriage can only be secured when you include Him seriously in it. If Richard had been a true Christian, God would have reveal to him some things to avoid which ordinarily he could not have been able to know about Funke. The same applies to Funke if she were to be a true child of God.

2.Develop a good Foundation during Courtship
Courtship is a ship Court where the two intending partners take a journey of discovery. People have abused it because they do not understand its purpose. In courtship, people are supposed to discover themselves in everything except in sexual matters. It is in courtship you got to find out if what were revealed to you about the person you are in love with are true and it is here you got to understand him or her better.

The foundation for an enduring marriage is laid during courtship. It is through courtship you confirm the will of God for the marriage and plan on how to move on with your marriage plans. That does not mean that you must know everything about your partner during courtship since it is not possible, but at least the basic requirements for godly partnership are discovered here.

3. Build Everything on Sincerity
In today's world deceits take most part of life. People practically enjoy deceiving others. Marriage is not an exception when it comes to this. In fact, a lot of people married by deceits and this has put the marriage under the heat of pressure. Sincerity is one of the bedrocks of marriage. It helps you out of pretenses and makes you live your life in marriage without disappointing the expectations of your partner. If you want the best out of marriage build on sincerity.

The case between Richard and Funke is unfortunate. It can be avoided if only people will be ready to learn how to make God the central power behind their marriage. You cannot afford the embarrassment of a disappointing marriage, do the right thing now.